Setting Boundaries

Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill in its own right. 

KNOW AND UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN LIMITS

It’s very good to step outside of your comfort zone to grow, but do not ever put yourself in a position that will compromise your health & happiness. This includes putting yourself in situations that could be dangerous for your mental health and also being around energy vampires (people who suck up & take your energy) 

when we live a life without boundaries we allow people to run us down, take advantage and wear ourselves thin mentally, emotionally and physically.

You can’t set boundaries if you are unsure of where you stand. If you feel a red flag ask yourself, why is this making me feel stressed or uncomfortable? Tune into your feelings and observe them more than you feel them. We say this because feelings and emotions come from experiences we have had in the past. What is it that has caused me to feel this way? What happened? We don't have to dwell on the situation that occurred but we need to know why it is there so we can acknowledge it to set a boundary. 

BE DIRECT ~ Let your boundaries be known. If someone or something is making you feel uncomfortable, talk it out. This doesn’t have to be an argument! Stand your ground & communicate. Don’t feel guilty or fearful for expressing how you feel, if you pent this up and allow someone/thing to continue making you feel uncomfortable and stressed then you will, in turn, be uncomfortable and stressed. The person may not see your point of view or disagree with what your saying / feeling. And that’s fine. Once the conversation has been had you can both move on. If it won’t get dropped or there is no 'agree to disagree' then it’s a good time to reassess if the person should stay in your life or the situation be changed. 

It's very important that we don't live by 'cause and effect'. Be the person who causes an effective change.

HAVE A SUPPORT SYSTEM 

If your having a hard time with setting and sustaining your boundaries, speak to your friends & family. If you are not comfortable with doing that you can talk to us! You can email us at theenlightenment38@gmail.com or find us on Facebook and we will help you in anyway we can Xo